Posted by: fvbcdm | December 16, 2014

Feast of Saint Adelaide (16 Dec 2014)

When a man and woman present themselves before God’s altar to confer upon one another the Sacrament of Matrimony, the most precious gift that they can give one another is the vow of their fidelity. I have observed lots of marriages during my life, and more and more I realize that fidelity is the most important element in married life. If a husband and a wife can be assured of the fidelity of their spouses, they can put up with just about anything—sickness, financial reversals, disagreements about this or that. And fidelity means much more than just not committing adultery. It must include BEING PRESENT to one another physically, psychologically, emotionally, and every other way that a married couple can be present to each other.

Through the years, I have known a family which began well enough, but then problems began to arise principally because the husband began to make a good deal of money, whereas before they had been in very modest circumstances. He wanted to go out a great deal, to party, to have lots of friends and get on the social merry-go-round. She was not interested in that kind of thing, but wanted to stay home with their children. Pretty soon, he began giving evidence that he was committing adultery. It nearly destroyed his wife. But for the sake of the children, she stayed in the home and did her duty by them. Years later, when the husband had become senile and totally dependent upon his wife, she was there for him; she forgave all the years of his philandering and the suffering he had caused her, and when he died, she went on with her life, such as it was.

The reason I speak of this today is that in the liturgy, we have the assurances of the prophet Isaiah that the Savior of the world will be totally faithful to us. He is our spouse in the scriptural sense; we are his bride whom he loves with an everlasting love and to whom he will be eternally committed. Several times in the liturgy of our wedding Mass, we speak of the loving, committed couple as a reflection of Christ’s love for his Church—his people. Regardless of our state in life—married, widowed, single, religious, priest, or whatever, it is incumbent upon us that we be totally faithful to Jesus, our divine spouse, creator, redeemer, lord, companion, friend, judge, and king. Let us think of that often during this holy season of Advent, and when we gaze upon the figure of the infant Christ in the manger, let us remember: he became a human baby and grew into a human adult FOR US—FOR ME. Thank you for seeking God’s truth. God bless you. Father Victor Brown, O.P.

Note: This message was composed some years ago.

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