The 8th of the 10 commandments says, “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor.” This means that we must not lie to our fellow human beings. Now, one of the most serious and sinful lies that we can tell is to stand before God’s altar, or before some magistrate of the law, together with one’s spouse to be, and to say, “I take you for my husband or wife until death do us part,” when we know that we either don’t mean that, or are not capable of making that kind of commitment.
Commitment is one of the functions of the normal, healthy human being. If we are the men and women that God intends us to be, we can say something and mean it. And then do our best to implement whatever it is we have committed ourselves to. And the commitment to God by our religion, our baptism and confirmation; the commitment of oneself to a spouse in marriage; the commitment of oneself to
Our Lord by the vows of religious life and priesthood—all of these are very serious statements of one’s intention to do something which is essential to fully human life.
If you can’t say something and mean it, and if you won’t do what you have committed yourself to do, then you are lacking in basic humanity and basic civilization.
If you watch television these days or read the newspapers, you get the impression that our contemporaries are lacking in humanity, in civilization, and very lacking in virtue because of their either inability or unwillingness to live up to their commitments. According to the law of God, marriage is permanent, monogamous, and unbreakable. One man and one woman pledge themselves to each other until death parts them. That has been the intention of God from the time he created men and women. But given the weakness of the human will and the strength of human passion and lust, the nobility of this concept of marriage has often been marred by adultery or other kinds of infidelity. Then, there has always been the sin of fornication, or simple living together without any commitment, any notion of fidelity or creating a stable home for children. Then, the evil of human coupling apart from God’s will went one step further and instituted successive polygamy: you marry; you divorce; you marry again; you divorce again, etc. This reduces commitment to a sick joke, and the human word to total irrelevance.
And now, we find that human evil has gone a step further from God’s will by instituting a so-called marriage between two homosexuals
in which two men or two woman claim to marry one another when all they mean is an arrangement in which they can live together with all the legalities of a real marriage without the physical ability to enter into a real marriage or to have children, without which marriage is impossible.
We must be aware that this is the kind of world we’re living in, and which is infecting us with its pagan philosophies. Our lower nature wants sex. So we have sex, in or out of marriage, with male or female, with someone else’s spouse, with no one’s spouse, with no commitment, no desire for children—and the willingness to kill the children if they should accidently be conceived during our sex-for-fun. That is not natural, not human, not civilized, and certainly not pleasing to God or conducive to our eternal salvation. Thank you for seeking God’s truth, God Bless you. Father Victor Brown, O.P.
Note: This message was composed some years ago.