This morning’s newspaper greeted me with bad news—the kind of headlines that can ruin one’s day.
There is a chart having to do with the state of couples who are living together in our country. And the news is that now, for the first time in the history of our country, the number of couples living together who are married to each other has fallen below the 50% mark. That is to say that more couples who are not married to each other are living together than those who are married to one another.
It isn’t surprising, of course. The sexual revolution is taking its foreseeable course. Now that contraception has divorced sex from having children, and abortion is legal in our country so that, in case the contraceptives don’t work, you can always kill the baby in the womb—why bother with marriage? And now that it is becoming more and more socially acceptable for two homosexuals to live together, and in some states, even to marry legally, that opens the doors to that kind of arrangement whereas years ago, it was less open and flagrant.
This is so sad because it is such a clear indication of the decline of religion in our nation. It is possible, of course, for two persons to live together and remain chaste and therefore within the borders of Christian morality. However, I think we all know or at least strongly suspect that the majority of couples who are living together without being married to one another are not living chaste lives, but are indulging in any kind of sexual activity that appeals to them, and therefore are committing either fornication or adultery or sodomy—depending upon their situations. And all of those lifestyles are totally opposed to the Judaeo-Christian moral ethic and are therefore gravely sinful.
Where do we go from here? Will the percentage of people not married to each other but living together increase until it will include the vast majority of our home situations? Since those people have no legal commitments to each other, and ignore the moral law of divine revelation, will the birth rate continue to fall and will the rearing of children be less and less characterized by moral principles and the good example of parents? Within our Catholic community, I wonder how many cohabiting couples continue to attend Mass and to pray. I suspect that the percentage is very small. And among the children who are being adopted by two cohabiting homosexuals, what will their views and their lifestyle be like as they grow to adulthood?
Christianity was founded by our divine Lord 2000 years ago in a totally pagan world where morality was not much influenced by beliefs. The Roman Empire eventually tired of its own moral squalor and embraced Christianity to a great degree. Now the wheel has turned again, and we have entered into another period of moral squalor. Will it turn again in the direction of God and Christ? Let us hope and pray for that day to come. Otherwise, what are the chances for our grandchildren and their grandchildren to live according to the will of God in moral uprightness that will lead them into eternal life?
Thank you for seeking God’s truth. God bless you. Father Victor Brown, O.P.
Note: This message was composed some years ago.